Why are Borderline Personality Disorder people so good at making people become infatuated with them?

People with Borderline Personality Disorder seem to have a talent for making people very quickly become infatuated/obsessed with the Borderline (I won't use the word love).





How is it that they have this ';talent';?Why are Borderline Personality Disorder people so good at making people become infatuated with them?
There are different types of behavior with BPD. There are those who predominently act out (raging) and those who act in (cutting) and there is a continuum with sufferers somewhere on a spectrum - low functioning (prone to drug use and poor societal function, crime, and hospitalization) and high functioning (can hold down a job and ';appear'; normal to people not close - like family - to the BPD.) Higher functioning BPDs almost universally deny that they have a problem. My opinion of higher functioning BPDs who predominently act out is that they lack a conscience and are self absorbed.





If a BPD is higher functioning and intelligent, they often have the ability to ';read people'; pretty well. They can also be extremely adept at manipulation. It's very easy to not understand the manipulation, especially when everyone else around (i.e. not family) seems to think well of the BPD. The manipulation and the lack of insight from others can make the non-BPD doubt their own instincts.





At the core of all BPD behavior is fear of abandonment and great difficulty dealing with their feelings.





CONTROL is at the core of effective, manipulative BPDs. It's a sick game, but it gets played by many women. BPD is the most prevalent personality disorder and yet most people have never hear of it. Statistics show that just about everyone interacts with a BPD at work or school and is completely oblivious.Why are Borderline Personality Disorder people so good at making people become infatuated with them?
it's 'professional manipulation'.ask any of %26lt;some%26gt; us BPD's.and btw we-(i) don't like being like that.it's a disorder like any other mental illness.we did'nt ask for this.just like other's don't ask for they're diaganosis(es).not to be harsh but sometimes it seem's ppl. judge ppl. w/ BPD.not that you are.nevermind. p.s.BPD is in most cases brought on by traumatic experiences in early childhood.
Drama! Not everyone will love them, many will hate them or simply not care, but many are attracted to drama.





The other thing is that there are a lot of people out there who seem to have a fetish for saving others, being that knight in shining armour or the girl who made the bad guy good. It's sometimes a power trip on their part and someone as screwed up and dramatic as a borderline? Is the perfect mate especially since borderlines often idolize their lovers, until they do something wrong and then they hate them with a passion, being hated or loved are both powerful positions to be in especially when it's a mentally fragile person who is doing either the loving or the hating.





If you find yourself attracted to someone with this disorder or who displays many symptoms of this disorder, it might be wise to look into yourself. If there's a pattern, it's likely you've got something wrong with yourself. Mentally healthy people are not going to fall for borderline dramatics at least not twice.
people feel sorry for them
Yea im sure thats what they r doin. Its all about u rite? Get over urself - B aware !